Our funeral directors guide to carrying the coffin
In many cases, friends or family would like to act as Pallbearers. If you are arranging a funeral you will need to decide who will carry the coffin.
A funeral procession is also called a funeral cortege. It is a slow, solemn and respectful convoy of vehicles, which conveys the deceased and the mourners from the site of the funeral ceremony to the crematorium or graveside.
Alternative funeral Ideas
To arrange a unique funeral, it’s often the little things that can make a loved one’s final goodbye or celebration more personal. Allow us to inspire you with some wonderful, unique, and alternative funeral ideas.
Dressing the deceased
When dressing the deceased any attire that reflects a personal passion, hobby, occasion or achievement is increasingly popular. This might include wedding dresses, football strips, military uniforms, or motorbike leathers. You are also more than welcome to bring in your loved one’s make-up, perfume, or aftershave.
How to write a eulogy
For many people, close family, friends, and work colleagues, writing and delivering a eulogy is a deeply emotional experience, and though it can be a positive experience for some, it must be remembered that it can be too difficult for others.
The funeral reception
Sometimes referred to as the wake, the funeral reception held after the funeral service can be a traditional or unique affair. As personalised funerals become more popular, people are choosing to use this time to celebrate the life of their loved one rather than mourn their passing.
When arranging a funeral the newspaper notice or obituary is not only an important opportunity to publicly announce the death and funeral details, but it can also be used to detail where any donations or floral tributes and funeral flowers can be sent.
After the funeral
After the funeral, you are not alone. Bennetts Funeral Directors will continue to support you, and all our bereaved families with practical information and a vast network of bereavement support services.
Dealing with loss and bereavement can be a very difficult and confusing time for any individual or family and losing someone we love is probably one of the hardest experiences many of us will ever go through. Our local bereavement support groups, courses, and seminars will guide and support you through your healing process. You are not alone!
A Pallbearer is traditionally one of the people who will help to carry someone’s coffin from the hearse to the funeral venue and, if they are being buried, to their grave. Typically four or six Pallbearers carry or escort a coffin at the funeral. People who are chosen to do this, or who would like to, are usually very close family members and friends. We will discuss this with you when making funeral arrangements.
Even though it is an honour to be asked, you do not have to accept the role of Pallbearer and our Funeral Directors offer the helpful suggestion of forming a guard of honour to also walk beside or behind the coffin on its final journey.
Carrying the coffin requires experienced Pallbearers
Under the guidance of our insurers, we would actively dissuade untrained bearers from carrying a coffin. However, should a request be made to bear the coffin, then a training session will be provided. We would like to stress that our bearers are very experienced and highly trained for their work, and therefore our professional team of bearers is preferred. We do, however, recognise that the opportunity to bear the coffin of a loved one is very important to some and, with this in mind, should family and friends wish to carry the coffin our bearers will be in attendance throughout the funeral proceedings to minimise any risk.
If you are arranging a funeral for a loved one, please feel free to ask Bennetts Funeral Directors for advice if you or any family members are considering carrying the coffin.
Call us on 01277 210104 or 01277 627492, we are here to help.